Self Improvement

3 Proven Ways to Build Confidence and High Self-Esteem

How does it feel to have poor self-confidence and a low self-esteem? You feel other people are better than you. You think people at parties do not want to make conversation with you. You see more confident persons receiving promotions, making new friends, attracting hot women and men, and generally getting things you desire.

It sucks to have low self-esteem. If you want to build self-confidence to banish these depressing feelings and finally become a popular person, follows these tips to quickly boost your self-esteem:

1. Do an exercise routine. Exercise releases what I think of as self-esteem-enhancing hormones. Just running or lifting weights instantly makes you feel better about yourself. You’ll also feel great about yourself once you see an attractive figure in the mirror.

If you don’t yet exercise, start out with brisk walking for 15 minutes a day, 3 times per week. Work your way up to 30 minutes 6 days a week. Make it a ritual.

I also encourage you to build strength. Even if you’re not a muscle-head, lift weights. The added physical strength adds to your psychological strength.

2. Reduce self-analysis. Low self-esteem individuals tend to suffer from social anxiety. A pre-cursor to social anxiety is self-obsession where the person continues to think about himself or herself.

No one thinks about you as much as you. Know that most people in conversations are more concerned about how you think of them than their perception of you.

If you want to be self-conscious, focus on other people. What a counterintuitive lesson! Once you focus on other people and reduce self-analysis, you begin saying and doing the right things. Also doing activities that make you focus and hold your attention can quickly boost your confidence.

3. Accept mistakes. A baby tries to walk, falls over, and gets up to try again. If it gave up like so many people with poor self-esteem, it would never learn to walk.

Please accept your mistakes if you want to build self-confidence. There is no failure, only feedback. When you really believe and accept this, you use failure to build confidence – another counterintuitive lesson.

Nobel Prize writer George Bernard Shaw said, “When I was young I observed that nine out of every ten things I did were failures, so I did ten times more work.”

That’s what building a high self-esteem is all about. Everyone fails, gets rejected, and feels humiliated at times. What matters is how you react to what life presents you.

The moment self-esteem-diminishing situation arises, ask yourself, “What would a confident person do in this situation?” The answer to that is the quickest way to build unstoppable confidence.